Monday, March 15, 2010

Give Me, Get Me, Buy Me Book Giveaway

*Giveaway is now closed. Random.org chose numbers 8, Amy, and number 7, Sona, as our winners.

Are you worried that your sweet child might be having a small dose of entitlement? Has it become apparent to you that parenting would be easier if your child didn't constantly have certain expectations of what should happen in life while lacking the ability to cope if those expectations aren't met?Donna Corwin, author of numerous parenting books including Time-Out for Toddlers, has written an excellent new book, Give Me, Get Me, Buy Me: Preventing or Reversing Entitlement in Your Child's Attitude. Ms. Corwin begins the book by stating that entitled children are not born - they are created. She then readily admits she was creating one in her daughter.
Entitled children are created when parents, often as the result of the best of intentions, overindulge their children with not only material items, but the attitude that rules and limits set by the rest of society somehow do not apply to them.

Consumerism and advertising certainly help push parents into this trap. New parents are bombarded with advertising and advice on which products they simply must have for their babies. Ms. Corwin gives a heartbreaking example of a new mom who had purchased a completely useful and safe stroller for her new baby only to be told by other parents that she needed a better one - a much more expensive one. This type of attitude soon extends to other avenues of life and as the child grows, he/she becomes all too aware that only the best is good enough.

I remember only too well the barrage of items my husband and I lugged around with us when our firstborn twins were small. Admittedly, almost none of our items were purchased new and some had been through multiple children prior to ours. However, we still needed a top carrier to hold the belongings of a family of four in order to travel. By the time our fourth child was born, our family of six could travel with a few small pieces of luggage and the top carrier has been gathering dust in the garage since. We finally realized the child needed us and that was about it. What a liberating realization that was.

But entitled children are not reared strictly on material items. Ms. Corwin further points out that it is the child who feels that he/she can interrupt any adult conversation and get immediate attention, or the child who has not been taught values or respect. These children also grow up feeling entitled.

Ms. Corwin begins Chapter One with a wonderful checklist to ascertain if your child has entitlement behavior. These include not responding to "no" or "stop", not following rules, not knowing the difference between "needs" and "wants", not sharing, being bossy or selfish, etc. I would think any parent who is being honest with him or herself would be able to read through that list and discover if perhaps his or her child was heading down the wrong path.

Give Me, Get Me, Buy Me is written in language easy to understand. Ms. Corwin identifies problem behavior and then offers practical ways to solve the problems. She ascertains that it is never too early or too late to correct the behaviors leading to the entitlement behavior.

My only fear with this book is that the parents who truly need to read it, won't. Isn't that always the way? I wish this book was required by all preschools as mandatory reading prior to beginning the program. All kindergartens could require it along with their screening process. What a difference it could make to our children - all of whom we would like to see become productive and desirable members of society. My children are older but I still found useful information in this book. I also found support for some of the parenting practices my husband and I have been using all of their lives.

Give Me, Get Me, Buy Me is available through Amazon for $11.66. TLC book tours provided me with a copy of this book in order for me to be able to write this review. I received no other compensation. They have also very generously offered to provide two copies of this book to my readers.

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34 comments:

janet said...

If I don't win, I can't wait to buy the book!

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

I would love this...I'm paranoid about raising one of those!!

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

I thought I WAS following your blog...but I guess I just had you in my blogroll! Anyway, rectified that right now!

Ma What's 4 dinner said...

If this book isn't coming my way I will definitely be picking it up for my little "want machines"!

Ma What's 4 dinner said...

I am now a proud follower of your awesome blog!

Mama Zen said...

This sounds excellent!

Sona said...

Ugh. I need this book for my husbands parents. They are in full swing of giving their granddaughter more stuff than she needs.

Amy said...

This would be great to have in my house.

Amy said...

Thanks for having a great giveaway..

I follow this blog..

Angelia said...

What a great giveaway! I think I need this book!

Angelia said...

I entered both giveaways!

Angelia said...

Tweeted!

Angelia said...

Following TLC Book Tours

Cranky Mommy said...

I think we're doing OK, but would love heads up info before we get into the more difficult years.

Kelley said...

I most definitely have an entitled child in the making and could SO use this book! Thanks for the opportunity to win it!

Kelley said...

following!

cindy said...

This book would be a great help!

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cindy said...

follower!

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justicecw said...

This is the book for me. I want to give my son everything without actually giving him "everything" Thanks for the chance, justicecw@hotmail.com

justicecw said...

I am a blog follower (found you through Follow Friday)
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Saving for a Home said...

This sounds like a great book. Thanks!

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Saving for a Home said...

I entered the "Did you hear about the Morgans" DVD giveaway. Thanks!

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Amanda said...

This sounds like an interesting book. I will have to check it out. Thanks!

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Amanda said...

I follow on google friend connect.

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Amanda said...

I follow TLC Book Tours on twitter.
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Amanda said...

I entered your Did You Hear About the Morgans? DVD giveaway.

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Helena said...

This sounds like a good solid book that I will give my sister-in-law, as she struggles with these issues!
Thanks for the giveaway!

Helena said...

I follow this blog!

Helena said...

Tweeted! http://twitter.com/melahelen/status/10897427027

Helena said...

I blogged this! http://helena-agalneedsatleast2blogs.blogspot.com/2010/03/great-giveaways_22.html

Helena said...

I follow TLC Books on Twitter (@Melahelen)!

Helena said...

I entered the DVD giveaway! Thanks!

LisaMM said...

Excellent review! I'm so glad you enjoyed the book. Thanks so much for all the time and effort that went into reading and reviewing Give Me, Get Me, Buy Me. It is greatly appreciated.

Helena said...

Tweeted! http://twitter.com/melahelen/status/10935326849
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